Today’s blog post is not what I had planned on posting, but given some recent (life in the last hour) experiences, I feel compelled to write this post.
I just got off of Lynn Terry’s weekly webinar that she offers for free to anyone interested in learning internet marketing. This particular webinar was very different from any one I have heard her do in the past. Now in case you don’t know Lynn, she is known as the “voice of integrity” in internet marketing. While I have never met Lynn in person (something I am very much looking forward to!) we do have some friends in common and I have been a member of her forum for almost 2 years and a member of her Elite forum for about a year, so I do feel qualified to speak to her caring, her integrity, her generous spirit, and her honesty.
Today she wore her heart on her sleeve as she expressed her frustration and disappointment with those who are having difficulty reaching their goals and doubting their abilities. There is a very long thread on her forum where many people have weighed in on this topic (this thread initially started out as “if you had to start over, what would you do differently..”). The general concensus appears to be that one must have “it”..certain characteristics that enable one person to be more successful than another; or experience a different level of success.
This is not about “whoo hoo” thinking (although that has a certain place when used appropriately); this is not about reading the Laws of Attraction and expecting everything you desire to fall into your lap. This is about a mindset and belief in yourself and what you are capable of achieving. This is about being very clear on who you are, what you want, why you want it and putting one foot forward day in and day out to achieve those goals.
Lynn, you are a dear soul who I admire very much. You have shared so much of your time, your expertise, and your patience with others, and I for one am grateful and so very appreciative of you. I’d like to publicly thank you for all you have taught me (whether I applied it or not!) and your kindness. I don’t get over to the forum too much anymore because for me, I have recognized in my journey that I’m not really all that interested in internet marketing per se…I want to touch people in a different way as a coach, teacher and trainer. As with anything, the internet is a tool for me to get my message out and create as much impact as I possibly can.
All of this rambling leads me to my main point. Until and unless a person takes 100% responsibility for his/her actions no amount of lip service from anyone else will matter. The excuses of one person having more of “IT” than another person, more talents, more luck…whatever, are just that…EXCUSES! We all deal with doubts of not being good enough or expert enough or smart enough or being unsure of ourselves…it’s called stepping out of the comfort zone and sometimes it SUCKS! Excuses start creeping in when we see someone doing what we want to do, or having what we want to have and to make ourselves feel better or validated we talk about things like luck, and having “IT.”
Perhaps you’re not getting the results you want because you’re not doing the things that you should be doing. Life is a learning process, YOUR success is YOURS alone…don’t borrow someone else’s. Not having the results you expect or want is NOT failure, it’s feedback. And yes, I consider myself an expert on learning theory (read my bio).
Success (your definition of it) will require persistence, determination, tenacity, commitment, clarity and focus…is it worth it to you? Only you can decide that…